As Time Goes On

Sixteen years ago today my man and I became Mr and Mrs Us.

Allow me to set the mood with the song for our first dance... Enjoy!



We still feel 'new' with each other while at the same time feeling like we've been together forever. I love feeling that way, even though on the surface it doesn't seem possible. Quite the oxymoron.

So here on our special day I find myself pondering this phenomenon...

My Scott and I are great together. We grow closer every day - deeper and more committed to our togetherness. We become better friends and more indispensable to one another with every passing moment.

In short, we honestly like each other - we are simply best friends. We always remember that we are - first and foremost - friends, never taking each other for granted or abusing the privileges that intimacy brings.

Here are the things about our marriage that I believe keeps it going strong year after year yet still feeling new:

• Respect. We give each other the gift of believing that the other is intelligent, capable and worthy.


• Acceptance. We cherish each other for exactly who we are with no judgements or expectations.


• Understanding. We give each other the gift of unconditional emotional support.
  


• Perspective. The worst thing that could happen would be to lose each other. Short of that, what really matters?


• Appreciation. We know that every moment together is a gift and we cherish each other accordingly.

If those precepts are the foundation, then the fuel that keeps us going is humor. We laugh - a lot. Believe me when I say that even when external things are at their worst, it has been the ability to find something in life to laugh about that has been our saving grace.

Scott recently came across a card at a gift shop that we believe sums up our relationship:

"Anyone can be passionate. It takes real lovers to be silly."

That's us in a nutshell - fearlessly silly with each other. No matter what else is going on in our life, there's always time and energy for silliness. Life is serious enough.

There you have it...the secret of our marital success (or was it the chocolate chip cheesecake?)